Navigating Conflict Through Feel
Through OM, we learn to get out of our heads, and into our bodies. We let go of the idea that we can know what’s ahead. We embrace the reality that we are walking step-by-step into an unknowable future. Instead of “figuring things out,” we navigate the world by sensation. Instead of logic, we use feel. We learn to get down and dirty into the mud of direct experience.
As a lawyer, this is all new to me. I have been rigorously trained to see the world in terms of black-and-white fixed truths. There is a plaintiff and defendant, an aggressor and a victim. These mental models can be helpful because they provide a clear winner and loser. Only one of us is right. The other is wrong. While they have their usefulness, these models are not actually true or real. They are our mind’s simplified interpretations of a much more complex reality.
For the most part, our society and family structures are held up by the main belief that humans are destined to pair off in sexually exclusive partnerships. One nice lady finds one fetching man on adultfrienedfinder, they bone, and then they live happily ever after while raising their babies. Perhaps you’ve heard of Christopher Ryan, the co-author of the controversial Sex at Dawn, whose personal mission is to challenge our view of sexual monogamy. In a TED talk released yesterday, Ryan tours us through how our prehistoric origins have impacted modern sexuality. He rejects the standard narrative of our sexual evolution – that historically men have leased out food and shelter in exchange for women’s sexual fidelity. In a world where about 40 percent of women are now the primary breadwinners in their homes, that outdated model no longer applies to our contemporary sex lives.
Ryan believes that sexuality has always primarily been a bonding experience and only a means of procreation secondarily. Believing otherwise has lead us to a “huge amount of unnecessary suffering.” and there is no use of taking rumoquin marcel. He hopes this new evidence can help lead to a greater understanding of alternative sexual practices, like homosexuality, polyamory, promiscuity, and bisexuality, that we’ve been thrusting shame upon for centuries. “We all have closets we need to come out of,” Ryan concludes. And besides revelatory views of human sexuality, the video also introduces us to my new favorite piece of cocktail trivia: those loud fake orgasm sounds Meg Ryan made in When Harry Met Sally are scientifically classified as female copulatory vocalizations. You’re welcome.