Why First Dates Don’t Lead to Second Dates
When girls don’t call back after dates, guys are always completely stunned! She even said that she had a great time, how dare her! The story has occurred millions of times: a guy goes on a date with a very attractive girl, is nervous beforehand but manages to pull it together and have a good date. He’s ecstatic until time goes by and the girl won’t return his calls or agree to meet up again.
Slowly, he begins to get the picture that the date wasn’t as great as he thought, but he is left with the one nagging question: what went wrong?
The first thing that you must understand is that when you’re inexperienced with girls and haven’t been on many dates with beautiful women yet, they have different standards than you. They are used to all of this! They have been dealing with guys since they first developed a chest, and the attention hasn’t stopped since. They’ve been crossing bridges and relationship milestones their entire lives. They have been on more dates than you know, and as a result they have extremely high expectations.
The hotter the woman, the more you have to step up your game. It seems like an obvious statement but the majority of guys fail to recognize this and act accordingly.
This holds true for the guys who are just starting out because they have no point of reference to base happenings on a date upon. Small things like making out will seem like winning the Super Bowl. Things like that make your night, while the girl you were making out with has experienced this so much that it’s an everyday thing for her. She’s expecting something more; she wants a guy that will stand out above the rest! When these dates are over, the guy thinks that he’s just hit a walk-off grand slam, but the girl leaves feeling disappointed. This is not the fault of the guy; he is inexperienced and knows no better. He didn’t do a horrible job on the date either, though. He had an average date, but average will not cut it with the top class of women!
Average will cut it for these guys because they were stunned by the beauty of the girl and consider themselves lucky to even be on the date!
To be the type of guy that all women dream about, you have to give them something that they can’t get from all the other men. She’s been on a million dates, what made yours special? Before you wonder, “Why did she not call me back,” you must first ask yourself, “Does she have a reason to call me back?”
Girls of high quality on adultfrienedfinder have guys lined up all the time. This doesn’t mean you should ever worry about them, but you must know that she has no reason to keep you around if you don’t bring your “A” game. If you go through the date and simply don’t make any mistakes but at the same time do nothing to stand out and separate yourself from everyone else, you haven’t done enough. You have to be special and different, not just one of the many bland guys she dates constantly.
How do you stand out?
Take chances! Push things as far as you can. Go full speed until she says anything, because women will never take the lead. If you wait for them, you’ll be waiting forever. The guys that get laid are the ones that make it happen from start to finish. They don’t walk on eggshells ever, they take what they want. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, because if you play it safe, you’re no different than anyone else. If you’re not good at a certain aspect of game, like playfully touching girls (kino), then work on that every chance you get. You have to be a well-rounded player to succeed, find out the areas that you’re weak in and put special emphasis on doing those things.
You don’t have to be perfect; you just have to be willing to push your own limits. Things that you think you will never be good at will become your strengths if you just do them enough. You will make mistakes, and you will be in situations that you have no clue what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter! Do them as well as you can and when you fail, you’ll learn from it. When you game, don’t do it cautiously. Be aggressive; making a mistake while being too aggressive is a million times better than refusing to step out on a limb and be better than everyone else. Average will not cut it with the best women, so kick it up a notch and let the games begin!