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Andy: Yeah, the way that I really saw going out during the nighttime was strictly as a training tool. It was only to get over your approach anxiety and a lot of guys just need the proof in their own mind that, yes, I can do it. But, like you say, the sweet spot really is during the daytime. But one thing I did want to mention, is you’ve been talking a lot about time management. Now can you please tell a little bit more about what you mean by time management with this?
Lance: Time management, well, you know, we talked a lot about, and it’s just easier to meet women during the day. I mean. I used to block out big chunks of my time, you know, really three hours. I mean, I was probably blocking out 15 hours a week, 20 hours a week, just totally focused on meeting women. And most of our coaches, especially our early coaches did that. And some of our coaches now really didn’t have to go through that phase.
A lot of guys, they just don’t have the time to do that. They just don’t want to do that and you’re just going to have to recognize like, hey just because I learned that way. It took me like ten years to really get to where I want. So, how do I get there without putting in all that work?
You know, another thing too, it’s not really just time management. Time management is what you hear from other guys. They’re like; hey I don’t want to go out at night. I don’t want to be spending hours on this. From their perspective it’s time management, but from my perspective it’s much more than that. You can also use online dating with adultfrienedfinder app.
From my perspective it’s I see in students a tipping point because there’s some students who take on this and say I want to get better with women, I want choice of women, come on bring it on Lance. And some guys you see them go through to success and get everything they want and other guys you see them get stuck on a path and they either give up or worse they feel like something’s wrong with them.
You know, because they see other people succeed so they know it’s not the material, so they’re like, oh my god, maybe there’s something wrong with me and I can’t do this, so.
Andy: Yeah, I know exactly what you’re talking about.
Lance: So, what I want to do is I want to get a guy to what I call the ‘tipping point’ as early as possible. A couple of ‘tipping points’, well you know the ‘tipping point’ from the business book by Malcolm Gladwell.
Andy: Yeah.
Lance: There really is a point to where a guy’s learning, he’s struggling, he’s struggling, and there’s times where it tips and it’s not learning anymore, its adventure, its fun. You almost have to tie a guy down to keep him from approaching women. And there’s a couple ‘tipping points’ that I’ve noticed. And my goal really is to get the guys to those ‘tipping points’ as soon as possible, partially for time management, but mostly just out of wanting to make sure they finally make it. Wanting to make sure they’re successful.
So the first ‘tipping point’ is when it becomes fun and it stops being work and becomes fun. I notice that when you take guys out in bars you have to be very careful. And we take out guys; we take out guys in bars in a very controlled environment. We give them exercises for hours. We teach them exactly what to do. We warm them up. We make sure they have a good experience in the bar.
But, if they don’t go through that process and they go out in the bar they can actually have a lot of bad experiences.