How To Deal With Other Guys
Hey guys, another aspect about picking up women that most people overlook is dealing with other dudes. I want to put down a few of my thoughts here; we can expand in more depth later.
In college (and the rest of the world for that matter), because of the tribe state of mind we encompass, there is a constant contest among men for superiority. Expect it. Even your boys will try to give you shit and it’s usually unintentional, but you might as well know how to deal with it when it comes.
Like, my buddy Ken and I were out the other night and he kept doing this thing where he’d lean on my shoulder while I was talking to girls. He gets way more then his fair share of girls but he was just trying to show me he could mess with me. The first time he did it I just turned around as if I was looking for someone, then the SECOND time he did it I told the girl that I knew previously froma adultfrienedfinder that she and I should go get shots. He knew what was up and I love the guy to death but once you start being a serious pimp (and I know that you guys are well on the way) you’re going to have to know how to deal with this
So Christian taught me something huge that day about AMOG’ing. This is jargon for “alpha male other guy” aka when another guy tries to show you up in front of a potential lay or girlfriend. It’s a stupid phrase but whatever, it works. Christian’s not a huge guy but I’ve never seen someone better at amoging, and we were talking about what he does and what I’ve been doing and I think we broke it down better than I’ve ever seen.
Basically, if another guy is messing with you, you have to do one of two things:
– Break rapport if he is trying to build it
– Build rapport if he is trying to break it
And you always do this from an alpha standpoint. So if the guy is trying to build rapport, you have to be “too cool for school”, like maybe you humor him a little bit, but you’re mostly just giving him shit. And if the guy is trying to break rapport, you need to build it from the standpoint of being alpha nice. Some examples might help:
Let’s say you’re chatting with a girl, you leave her for a minute, and then you come back and there’s some dude there. As you get back into the conversation, he tries to box you out. He’s breaking rapport. So you need to be the superior man, ask him his name, compliment him a bit about something (DON’T ask him questions except for his name), then as he keeps trying to fracture the rapport, you’re trying to build rapport with him AND with the girl from the perspective of being the fun, super-social guy. It will make this guy look like he is just out for pussy and not to have fun and will increase the amount of social value in her eyes. You can even call him on it if you want.
On the other hand, I’ve had it when guys try to break into my interactions and they’re trying to build rapport. Like, they’ll be asking a lot of questions, but they do it from the point of view of humoring me or talking about thrusting vibrators. So in those situations, you need to break rapport and be a bit of a dick. So what I was trained to do was to mirror them, ask a quick question or give a quick complement, then straight away break rapport and be like “so, why all these questions?” Or just indicate that you’re not interested in talking to them and edge them out. Again, do this from an alpha angle.