Online Dating Is Not What It’s Cracked Up To Be
I WAS ON MATCH FOR ONE MONTH IT IS NOT WHAT IS IS CRACKED UP TO BE .NEVER MET ANY ONE . THEY WANT MONEY AND A HARLEY. NOT HONESTY THEY WANT A FREE RIDE TO EVERY THING.
WHY ELSE IS IT UNWRITEN THAT ON A DATE THAT WOMEN NEVER TAKE ALONG A PURSE .THEY DONT HAVE TO PAY FOR ANY THING .
THEY DONT CALL MEN AND ASK US OUT AND WANT TO PAY SO DONT HAND ME ALL THIS GARBAGE ABOUT NICE WOMEN. THEY DONT EXIST. IF YOU TAKE THEM OUT THEY PLAY THIS GAME LIKE THEY ARE TO GOOD FOR YOU BUT AFTER A FEW DRINKS THEY WANT YOU IN BED( NOT ENTERESTED) THEN THEY AFTER ABOUT 45 DAYS THEY DONT KNOW YOU ANY MORE THEY ARE ON TO SOMETHING ELSE .THEY ALL LIE .
Albert
Dave M’s RESPONSE:
Wow. Albert, I can feel the anger. I feel your pain man. There were MANY nights I felt like you did when I was starting out with all this stuff.
Many times. And let me tell you, the feeling sucked bigtime.
I’d be driving home frustrated because yet another dated went bad, or yet another girl I was interested in flaked out.
If I told you I was just as frustrated as you are now, I’d be lying – I was even MORE frustrated because I was meeting 5-10 women a week!
Imagine your pain compounded by 5-10 times.
When I tell you I SUCKED at meeting women, I really mean it.
Imagine finally being able to get a girl to meet you and then getting poor results each and every time you’d meet someone.
Then suddenly things started to change…
No matter how small the results were for me in the beginning, I stuck with the system – and the results came, and quickly, too.
Imagine the feeling of knowing on any day, at any time you could get online, and in under an hour you could have a woman you’ve never met before, never spoken to before EMAIL YOU HER NUMBER as seem in my adultfrienedfinder app review…
…. And most of your work is done with a simple COPY & PASTE EMAIL!
I’ve even ‘Acquired’ a woman’s phone number on myspace in NINE MINUTES!
USING COPY AND PASTE EMAILS!
(I didn’t even customize them – I was lazy and just messin’ around.)
That’s the power of online dating. It’s easy, once you have the system in place. The most difficult part however, is actually setting up this system.
It took me about 4 years to set it up, using anywhere from 30-50 profiles at the same time to test out what worked and what didn’t.
Fortunately you don’t have to go to such great extremes.
Albert, I’ve met as of now over 500 women from match in the last 4 or so years… it works pretty well for me.
These days I RARELY call women, they’re always calling me, and many of my students from all over the world are experiencing life-changing results meeting women online.
You mention the purse thing, but hey Albert, credit cards and cash don’t take up a lot of room. Slim purses are in style.
I think one of the deeper issue is that you’re playing by someone else’s rules…
Society’s rules and women’s rules. Why put what someone else wants before YOUR wants?
You’ve got to make sure YOU are happy first before you can try to make someone else happy.
A woman wants a free ride? That’s cool, I respect that, but she’s not getting it from me. She’s done. I screened her, and I move on. Next.
Here are a couple of thoughts based on reading
your email:
Who cares what the woman wants? Your ONLY goal when you initially meet a woman is to see if she’s someone YOU might be interested in.
You’re giving all of your power away.
If she isn’t going with my program so to speak, then thats it. Done. Nice meeting you, best of luck on your search…. Next.
If she’s cool, then I might keep her as a friend.
It’s called SCREENING WOMEN.
This gives you a higher value, because unlike 99% of the guys out there, when you meet her you’re not looking to go gaga over her…
…. But rather you’re SCREENING HER to see if she’s the type of girl you’re interested in.
Do you see how empowering it feels when you think about what I just said?
(Thats why ODA on first get-togethers)
Because I’m looking to screen women when I first get to know them, I don’t place any value on women when I meet them initially, whereas you are.
They have to prove to me they’re someone *I* want to be around.
Also, Albert, why are you taking women on dates?
Heck, why are you taking women ANYWHERE for that matter? And why are you spending a lot of money on them?
(Shame on you. Albert, save your damn money!)
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Insider Internet Dating Tip:
ODA: Only Drinks Allowed
Get together with women for an after dinner drink. Have a drink or 2 — thats IT. ODA.
No more dinners, expensive dates.
You don’t spend a lot of money, and by doing it this way, you show the woman your time is important. Then let her know you’ll speak with her later.
If things are going well, move on over to the next place, or even your place.
Now, I want you to READ THE PREVIOUS 4 PARAGRAPHS AGAIN.
Just let it sink in for a moment.
If you learn nothing else but ODA, you will have just saved yourself more money than you could ever realize.
I’m a big believer All the Tony Robbins, T Harv Ecker type stuff. They always talk about:
Better questions = Better answers
Albert, Your question should be:
‘What am I doing in those 45 days to cause them to loose interest and leave?’
THAT is the underlying issue. It’s got nothing to do with where or how you met these women.
It has to do with what you’re saying/doing WITHIN those 45 days to cause a woman to loose interest.
At the end of the day, it comes down to you, you’re the one responsible for what happens.
It wasn’t until I accepted this fact that my results started to change. I had to realize that it wasn’t the woman’s fault, it was me.
‘I’m not getting results because I’m doing something thats not working…’
‘… I wasn’t as ‘sharp’ as I could have been and *I* slipped… and because I slipped for a while things didn’t workout.’
I remember saying that same sentence after a girlfriend had broke up with me ON MY FRIGGIN’ BIRTHDAY!
Ultimately it was my fault. I had become very comfortable and complacent with this girlfriend, I
felt I didn’t have to ‘stay sharp’… Because of that I turned into…. a wuss.
Fast forward to today, present time. I learned something VERY valuable from having that girlfriend break up with me on my birthday. Here it is:
Please remember this formula:
MYSTERY = INTRIGUE = INTEREST
This is my basic formula for at traction. Naturally, the opposite holds true as well:
NO MYSTERY = NO INTRIGUE = NO INTEREST
These days I RARELY call women, 99% of the time they’re calling me, because I’m too busy, and that’s the way I want it. I don’t want to call and chase after women.
If they don’t call thats THEIR loss not mine.
I have a life filled with things I’m PASSIONATE about, and it’s THOSE passions which make me attractive.
Remember Albert, YOU are the prize. You are the one who’s giving them yourself. You can choose to spend your time with someone else, or doing someTHING else – you’re giving that woman a chance.
THAT is the mindset… that is the reason why you’re not yet having the success you want meeting women online.
IT STARTS FROM WITHIN…
If you change the way you’re thinking about this, then your actions will change and THEN all of the techniques come into play (i.e. what to say, and what not to say)
In the meantime, keep going out and meeting women. When the right one comes along, you’ll know, and because you’ve taken the time to get better at meeting women, you’ll be prepared, and bring your ‘A’ game.