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Once the initial excitement of hooking up with your partner is over, it can be difficult to come up with romantic date ideas that you haven’t both done together a bajillion times.

Nowadays it feels like if you say something really cute, you have to say it almost saracastically, like you know you are being cheesy, like being all-out cute, using a cute love quote, is just plain wrong. Well I say we need to stand up for our right to be disgustingly cute and sweet when we feel like it. Be proud to shout “I WUV YOU SCHNOOKUMS!” from the rooftops.

So I’ve noticed a ton of sites springing up with lots of ideas on romantic text messages for your wife/husband/partner, a lot of which are cute romantic quotes in text form. And I think that’s a cool idea, but it got me thinking – can we really use texts to make romantic gestures, or bring us closer to our partners, or is it a dumb idea?

Golden rule when choosing the best romantic gifts for a guy:

Ladies, if you believe it to be cute, romantic and therefore cool, he will not.

Yes, your guy will make all the right noises, probably use the gift because you bought it for him and he loves you, but he will almost definitely NOT truly like that cute romantic gift. Guys heads are just wired differently than womens’. Let me backtrack before I get assaulted in the Comments… cute and romantic gifts are great, when given to someone who will truly appreciate them and grasp the significance. But that someone is probably not your guy.

Remember when you and your partner first hooked up? I bet it was awesome – you wanted to find out everything about them, spend as much time as possible with them, couldn’t keep your hands of them, and were probably full of ideas of great things to do together. But if you’ve been together a while, it’s a good bet things ain’t like that any more.

You both look into each others’ eyes as you sip your wine. Finally a quiet moment for you both to ch…

“Mommy! The aliens stole my bear!! Come quick!!”

… that beautiful silence is broken by one of your kids and off one of you has to go. You spend the next 20 minutes calming them down, getting them back to sleep, and by now your romantic dinner is cold, and your partner is engrossed in their iPhone, not your beautiful eyes any more.

How long have you been in your relationship? If you haven’t had much chance to see how a healthy, loving relationship works on a daily basis, taking some time to really study how to have a healthy relationship can give you a much better chance of having one yourself. There are lots of different styles of relationships that can work just fine, but all those successful relationship styles tend to have a few things in common.

So first of all, well done you for at least thinking about ways to improve a relationship – so many of us just throw in the towel nowadays once it gets to feel a bit like hard work – when the novelty has gone, their little quirks annoy you, and you’ve figured you actually WON’T be able to change all things things about them you thought were changeable when you first got together.

I talked about ways to improve a relationship before, but sometimes you need to discover how to repair a relationship – things have gotten to the point in your relationship where it’s not a case of ‘tweaking’ things to improve a relationship, but rather the relationship is broken.

I thought we’d look first at the hurdles to overcome before you can actually start to repair a relationship, then we’ll talk about the steps to take to repair it. Make sense? Hope so, let’s crack on…

After you and your partner have been together for a while, you may find your sex life isn’t quite as amazing as it used to be. It’s normal for the spontaneity to decrease in a relationship. But if the initial “Anywhere Anyhow Anytime” turns into “Bedroom-Only, This Way, Friday” then that’s not great is it?