The Inner Game of Approach Anxiety
Get ready for some cool #$&% here… I’ve got a message that will really help you with this whole “anxiety” thing…
The biggest question that guys have about approaching and
“Day game” is simply this:
“How do I get rid of my approach anxiety?”
Now that’s a huge question. In fact, it was so big that it inspired me to create this program to get you past it and also program on how to use thrusting vibrators properly. I can’t cover it all in one email…
BUT I’m going to target one question that focuses on one part of this problem. I think you’re going to get a lot out of this if you listen close.
Here’s the question:
“What is the fastest way to force the anxiety of approaching out?
How do I fight my way past my fear?”
Let me explain it like this…
As you already know, I’m a student of language, because we all THINK in language.
I grew up in America, and I speak English, and all my thoughts are in English.
So when I think, I’m limited to the concepts that the English language is built on.
If this sounds weird, just think about it this way: In English, we put adjectives (the words that describe something) in FRONT of the word we are describing.
So if I say I’ve got a LONG…
…
HARD
…
CRUSTY
…
OLD
Sandwich roll…
What did you think as you were waiting to get to the “sandwich roll” part?
Your mind had time to make up a lot of stuff there, didn’t it?
And for many of the languages of the world, adjectives DO NOT come first, so people who think with the nouns first don’t imagine the same things.
Okay, this is a lot of what “NLP” or “neuro-linguistic programming” is based on.
So let’s get back to your question about “forcing the anxiety out” and “fighting past your fear.”
What kind of images do those words create in your brain?
Force… Fight…
All you see is CONFLICT. Struggle!
And what you end up doing is FIGHTING something instead of learning how to work WITH its energy.
This is the foundational principle of a great many Martial Arts.
When force meets force, you have a battle of wills.
AND – when you think in terms of conflict and fighting – what must you assume to believe that you have a fight?
You must believe you have an ENEMY.
In other words, if I believe I’ve got a fight on my hands, I simply MUST have an opponent – an adversary to fight.
When you assume you have to fight “approach anxiety” you actually give your enemy more power over you.
You start to imagine your enemy in all kinds of detail. You see his armor, and his weapons, and his intimidating battle stance…
You hear his words of doubt whispering in your ear…
You feel him holding you back when you see a woman you want to talk to…
Look, I’ll be the first to admit that this fear is VERY real. You
DO feel it, and it does exist. I’m not saying it’s a figment of your imagination.
But what if the fear had nothing to do with the approach on Adultfrienedfinder?
What if it was something else you could actually control?
What if you could turn its energy around to HELP you?
This falls under the category of self-limiting beliefs, because we’re giving more power to our “enemy” by pretending that he’s something we need to fight.