How to Cure Your Approach Anxiety
So here’s something I want you to try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it just for practice. Don’t do it for real.
Because it’s just for practice, don’t limit yourself to just talking to hot chicks. In general, I’ve found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easiest to talk to of all the demographic groups. If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, for example, that you’ll talk to this person you see on the sidewalk for 30 seconds, and then you’ll get out of the conversation. (Say something like, “Well, I’m on my way to meeting a friend. Good chatting with you.” And then walk away without making a big deal of it.)
Another trick a friend of mine told me was to tell yourself a joke as you make your approach and then laugh. That’ll put you in a good mood when you talk to the person. Once you’ve done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again though, do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind when meeting women on adultfrienedfinder.
For example, if a woman passes by you in a hallway, just say (as if you’d just thought of it and it’s no big deal), “Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something.” (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)
Remember though: have no outcome in mind. That way you won’t care if the chick acts like a bitch.
As a matter of fact, when you reach a point that you’ve chatted up lots of women, you’ll find that negative responses on their part don’t phase you one bit. You’ll have an attitude like, “Haa, how original… I’ve had tons of women give me that exact same ‘clever’ rude comment.” I’ve been rejected hideously, time and time again. One chick screamed “Go away!” at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.
Another time a chick got some guy to try to start a fight with me just because I talked with her. I managed to get away without fighting, but I felt like a total chump afterwards. But now I just look back on all of that and laugh. I’ve done this so much that rejection usually bores me, but amuses me when it’s done in a novel way. Success with women comes from not putting any pressure on myself.
I’ll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice:
1) Be social for the sake of being social. Nothing else.
2) The more you do the thing you fear, the easier it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, “Been there, done that, it’s no big deal.”