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So, Lance, I know that you’re here on the line so well let’s start off. What is it that you’d like to talk about with DayGame and building connection with women and just dating in general?

Lance: Well, Andy, I think those are the three just real hot topics that I’m really focused on. You know, we talked a lot about a lot of things since we’ve been working together here now for three years. Thanks for sticking with me all this time.

K. is 19. And HOT. I mean, walk-down-the-street and cars veer off the road hot. And she enjoys it. She’s the kind of young girl that makes men happy just to look at.

She was the perfect girl to get this secret from. What are the caliente chicas really after?

“Yeah, not what you are supposed to look for. I mean, really, what gets you a little hot and bothered?”

She looked down at the floor, then back up at me, and smiled.

“You know what I really look for? A normal guy. A normal guy… with nice shoes.”

Most people begin conversations by discussing mundane stuff: the weather, the crowd at the party, what they do for work, and the slow line at the coffee shop. Such conversations often become stale–but they don’t have to. They can lead to excitement and romance.

Boom. Boom. Boom. The club music is annoyingly incongruent with this beat in my chest. She is young, exotic, and beautiful. My throat feels constricted, the veins of my forearms and neck push outward with each heartbeat; I nervously wonder if other people see it. Boom. Boom. Boom. I don’t know her; I don’t know what to say; I don’t know how she’ll react. I cannot know, except by finding out. Boom. Boom. Boom. I could walk away and make it end, but then the excitement would be replaced by regret.

One of the things we stress over here at Charisma Arts is the power of Vibe. This mysterious super power is often misunderstood. Vibe is all of the communication you are sending that has nothing to do with your words and everything to do with body language, tonality, facial expressions, and a lot more. So how does one learn to put off a good vibe: one word, COMMITMENT.

I remember wanting to talk to this really pretty girl one time. I finally got the nerve to go say hello to her. My palms were sweaty and my heart was racing. Every insecure thought i’ve ever had about myself was going through my head weakening my resolve by the moment. I get within earshot of this girl and her friend when she looks up at me and smiles a bit. I return her smile as i walk closer. She looks back at her drink in front of her as i am now only a foot or two from them. Then as if guided by some unforeseen force my feet don’t stop. I continue walking by her without a word and go right into the bathroom as quickly as I can. I am mortified at my lack of a spine. When i gain my composure I settle up my tab and walk out of the bar in shame.

Rewarding someone with appreciation is really one of the strongest ways you can create attraction. When you reward someone for their uniqueness they feel validated and appreciated. You become approval giving rather than approval seeking if you reward them on their uniqueness.

Every human has an invisible bubble around him or her, to get someone’s attention all you really have to do is burst this bubble when they can visibly see you doing so whether it is in there direct vision or peripheral vision. The bubble that we all have is our safe area in which we know is ours. It is like a sixth sense when someone enters this area and little alarms go off in our head letting us know exactly when someone is doing so.

Kino and how to use it on the approach:
First I’ll give you a run down of what happened and then I’ll give you the ways to fix it. I was at a restaurant with a friend and my cousin, we had a nice meal but during the coarse of that meal I had finished my water and found myself wanting more.

All the time, people ask me, “How are you?”

I usually feel a twinge of boredom in response; I can tell that they don’t care…they’re just filling space and trying to be polite. But being polite was never the cornerstone of a great romance.

What makes a question interesting vs. being a throw-away question?