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I walked into the bar, and knew she was looking at me. Actually, she couldn’t see the entrance from where she was sitting, but she was looking *for* me. My spidey sense told me so.

I walked past the pillar in the middle of the bar and saw her standing near a small leather couch. As our eyes met, she quickly looked away. She’s shy. And small. – A cute Thai girl hanging out with her friends (one guy and one girl – also Thai).

Hey guys,

I met this totally cute cashier at a coffee shop by my apt who just started working there evenings and weekends. I chatted her up a bit and she told me that she had just moved to SF. Bantered with her some, but kept things casual. So my question is, how should I go about asking this girl for a date?

I mean, should I go to the coffee shop a few times and banter with her more each time, or should I just ask her out next time I see her? Also, need tactical advice on how to ask her out. I’m just not sure how to approach a hired gun. Anyway, any good strategy is much appreciated and I’ll let you know the results.

Andy: Can you talk about that?

Lance: Yeah. It was an amazing event for me because we had a lot of really great products out there, I mean Fearless First Impressions, Charismatic Conversations, I mean, Zero Drama Dating was a great event and a great product. But we never really revealed the material I think we were best known for, which I think is the Real Rapport workshop.

Andy: What’s the next step?

Lance: Well, you know the thing I want to say about dating is that most guys I talk to, a lot of guys that I talk to don’t think dating is a problem. I mean you’re looking at me kind of, I mean some guys will say I need to have a game plan. But other guys will come to me and say I can’t get dates and when I have a date it usually works out pretty well.

And there’s even a whole kind of old kind of, if you look at the old stories of the gods and the goddesses and romances happen and just different kind of mythology you see the same thread running through so we know it’s not just a western civilization thing. Because there’s some real biological urges that express themselves in certain stories of how men meet women.

Lance: But you know most, it’s just true, most guys can’t go to the places that women want to take them and that’s why when you learn this skill it’s so powerful because it’s not easy for other guys to copy. They can’t just copy what you say. They can’t just try an mimic your body language. They have to be able to do emotionally what you’ll be able to do when you do this stuff, so.

Andy: Yeah, you can literally see it in their face where they’re having fun, she’s into you, but the guy keeps going, he’s not paying attention and any sort of connection that you could have had just kind of slips away. So, it’s just, yeah, it’s exactly what you say. You’ve got to stop as soon as you’ve hit like maybe that third laugh or, and just get real and really get connected.

Lance: She probably goes out all the time. She probably met a hundred men in the last week or the last month or whatever and she’s probably had a lot of dates. She probably just ahs this constant influx of guys in and out of her life and that’s why she’s flaky. There’s nothing wrong with her. She’s just all, you know.

Lance: You know, and you just kind of ask yourself because I meet women at like Whole Foods or at the gym, you know I have other cool thing that I do. Like I love to kite board or salsa dancing and you know. It’s like do I want to meet a woman who goes out to 3 am. and drinks which means she probably smokes and I don’t, I’m not a big smoker personally.

Andy: Yeah, the way that I really saw going out during the nighttime was strictly as a training tool. It was only to get over your approach anxiety and a lot of guys just need the proof in their own mind that, yes, I can do it. But, like you say, the sweet spot really is during the daytime. But one thing I did want to mention, is you’ve been talking a lot about time management. Now can you please tell a little bit more about what you mean by time management with this?