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You’ve become a member of an excellent online dating Web site. You surfed through all the excellent profiles. You found an excellent one written by a seemingly excellent woman. You wrote her an excellent first email. You received an excellent response. You wrote her a super-excellent second email. You received a super-excellent second response.

New to the online dating scene? Worried about compromising your privacy? You’ll be happy to know you’re not alone. Users new to the world of online dating report fear of exposure as one of their number one concerns with using the internet. Fortunately for you there are quality providers who recognize your very valid concerns and have taken broad steps to ensure their services respect your anonymity.

Is online dating safe?

We’ve all seen the sensationalist news reports. The way sweeps-week TV shows portray it: Online dating is either a sea of married men pretending to be single, unusually kinky or unsavory characters and pasty-faced internet addicts who haven’t left their homes in months. Even people who are engaged in online dating sometimes joke that if they meet their true loves online, they’ll have to lie to their friends about how they met. But as more and more perfectly normal singles become perfectly normal couples after meeting online, the truth is becoming clear: this new technology is just one more route to good old-fashioned romance.

When filling out your profile on an online dating site, it’s often easy to get carried away and feel like you’re ordering your perfect date from an a la carte menu. With an image in your head of your ideal match, you start clicking check boxes and making selections. But these choices could prevent a potentially good match, even someone who fits your criteria exactly, from responding to your profile. Before you post your profile, think about what others might imply from your selections, and whether or not your choices are carved-in-stone requirements, or more negotiable preferences.

I’ve heard a lot of people griping that they didn’t get responses, or the kind of responses they wanted, from their personal ad. Granted, there’s a lot of people out there who will write to anyone, compatibility be damned! But there’s also some little things you can do to make your ad perform better. Let’s examine a few common pitfalls.

Here’s a handful of important things to keep in mind when you’re answering or placing a personal’s ad. If you’re involved in any kind of internet dating, you’ll want to read this!

Get an anonymous e-mail account. You don’t want every person to whom you write to know your full name, and possibly where you work. There’s tons of free web-based e-mail accounts, like Yahoo! or Hotmail. Make sure you don’t have your real full name visible in the outgoing name (for example, “John Doe” <john_doe@yahoo.com>). If you’re not sure, send yourself an email and take a look. You can usually change this in “options” or “preferences.” I usually just use my first, or first and middle name. Also, for you AOL folks, it’s good to use a non-AOL e-mail account to avoid pesky Instant Messengers:

It’s often been said that “nice guys finish last,” that women won’t respect a guy who is too attentive, affectionate, and devoted. Some even go so far as to assume that since they were nice, and a woman rejected him, that all women must like jerks. They wonder why women seem to like jerks. Then they start acting like jerks hoping it will work for them.

One of my biggest breakthroughs in meeting and attracting – picking-up – women was learning to playfully tease them. (I realise now this is absolutely crucial not just in picking-up women but in relationships too.)

Before understanding the importance of playful teasing, I used to talk to women I didn’t know (when I managed to force myself) in a very serious way. I’d talk about work, relationships, kids, the weather, or whatever but in deep and meaningful way! In others words, I used to talk to girls I was interested in, in a dull and boring manner. Dull and boring conversations do not create chemistry or attraction between two people! It took me a long while and a lot of experimentation to realise that!

Ross is a world-renowned pick-up artist. He uses NLP to attract and seduce women. He developed his own personal ‘attraction’ technology called Speed Seduction.

Here’s a snippet from a recent article written about him.

Subscribers to his newsletter receive regular updates on such topics as How To Nail That Girl That Just Wants To Be Friends! And How To Induce A Hypnotic Trance In Three Minutes Or Less And NEVER Get Caught! Once you’ve advanced past the novice stage, you may want to enrol in one of his regular three-day Advanced Master Weekends where you will learn the breakthrough secrets that will turn you into a scoring genius, humping and pumping every gorgeous girl in sight!

If you want to improve your confidence with women, then you need both real-life experience and the ‘right’ knowledge…

I’d like to tell you why I recommend my friend John Alexander’s ebook, “How to Become an Alpha Male.”