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A psychological study done last year found that sleep preserves emotionally charged events.

This means that if you have a fight with your partner and don’t resolve it before bed, you are more likely to hold on to the fight  and your hurt feelings in your permanent memory. Not a good thing for your relationship!

Dr. June Reinisch, Director Emeritus & Senior Research Fellow of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender & Reproduction, discusses the following interesting research-based facts about affairs in her youtube video Myth: Most Married People Are Unfaithful:

Recently a client asked me how she would know if she was in a good relationship. If she was doing a good job at her work, she would get promoted. If she was doing well in school, she would get good grades. But if she was doing well in relationships, well, what would she get?

The answer to this question may seem beyond obvious – you would have love, of course, one might say. But typically, people can’t tell whether they are in a good relationship or not. Can you?

Are you having a hard time believing that you can have a wonderful, deeply satisfying, loving relationship? Do you think thoughts that make it impossible for you to believe that your dreams of true love will ever come true? Do you wish life was different; people were different, so that you can have the relationship you have always dreamed of?

By now you have been exposed to enough ideas about law of attraction to realize that you should think positively. If I told you it would be a good idea to think that you can and will attract the right partner or that you can get more love in your current relationship, you would agree with me.

In my search to accelerate personal and relationship growth for clients, I have been sampling guided-visualization CDs and MP3s. I have probably tested at least 30 different guided meditation CDs and have finally come up with a list of five that I highly recommend to anyone trying to patch up a difficult relationship or working on attracting “the one.”

Below is a list of the CDs, and coaching on how I suggest you use each one. If you are searching for a way to heal your heart and improve your relationship and love life, I suggest you give these a try. I think you will find them enormously helpful.

The Secret

Instead of listening to words that profess love and make promises, watch your new dating or relationship partner for consistent, positive action towards you over time.

Have you ever gotten into a relationship with a person who told you everything you have dreamt of hearing from a partner, only to have the relationship fall apart for no reason a short time later? This happens to almost all singles at some time.

The Mistake:

Being with a compatible partner and yet still wondering if there is someone better suited for you out there.

At some point in every relationship, and in some much sooner than in others, one or both people wonder if they should leave and find a more compatible, better-suited partner elsewhere.

I had a conversation with a friend the other day.

I was struggling with how I was feeling about a particular situation. My feelings were strong and I was making choices based on these feelings that I didn’t like very much. This kept happening over and over and I was starting to get frustrated with myself. I was starting to feel like a butterfly captured in a net.

As a single person you have many choices when it comes to choosing dating partners and, ultimately, a mate. Here is one question you should ask yourself when you are choosing whom to date: Do you choose someone who can help you grow, or someone whom you will have to work on changing?

Many singles will openly admit that it initially feels better to be in any relationship, than in no relationship at all. This is especially true if the sparks are flying

Most people think that sharing the same religious background, having comparable intelligence and ambitions, being involved in the same sort of social life, and having the same financial goals and personal values are the most important things in a relationship.